Hey there, pretty Mama! So you saw the title about Dads and pregnancy and couldn’t resist clicking on it to see what it’s about. After all, giving dads ideas on ways they can help during pregnancy is never a bad idea, right?
I feel you! I know you’re exhausted and (to all of you still in the first trimester) probably puking.
Having some help with some extra stuff would be a major, major help right now.
But where to start?
I get it. You’re so tired, you need help but you don’t have the energy to ask or even to think about what to ask.
It’s totally okay. Just send this link to Dad. I’ve directed this respectfully to dads on your behalf so they can have some ideas on how to help you out.
Or, you can simply read this and gain some insight on what to ask for or get some extra ideas.
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If You’re Dad Learning About Dads and Pregnancy
Thanks for taking the time to read about dads and pregnancy.
This can be a crazy time for everyone and trying to figure out what to do or where to start, things can get overwhelming.
Don’t panic, though. Everything’s cool and will fall into a routine.
Here are some ideas on how you can help out Mom.
Dads and Pregnancy: 10 Ways to Help Out
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1: Dads Can Do Dishes
Dishes are an extension of some sort of swamp monster. They grow and seep out of the sink across the counter before you have time to blink.
If there’s a dishwasher, that helps, but it’s still a constant battle to keep the monster at bay.
Popping into the kitchen every once in a while to do the dishes or even help with drying and putting away is a huge way to help to mom during pregnancy.
Besides, there are fewer things better looking than a hubby with sudsy hands. Just sayin’.
2: Dads Can Change Diapers
I know. This one is totally gross but look.
Even if it’s just pee diapers, you have no idea how much help it is to be able to grab the kiddos for a quick change.
Mama’s belly is growing, which means lifting and managing squirming tots is getting harder as the weeks go by.
If you hear her huffing and puffing, she’s not being dramatic.
She’s literally having to work harder to get quality air.
I wish I could convey the incredible amount of relief I feel when my husband picks up our son and takes him for a diaper change.
He turns into a knight in shining armor in my eyes.
3: Dads Can Take the Other Kids Out
This is an enormous way to help your wife out and allows her some uninterrupted sleep.
Taking the kids out doesn’t mean doing something that will stress you out or require serious energy.
Here are some places you might consider taking your kids to run around while you sit and watch:
- The park
- A fast-food play area
- An indoor activity center
- A library with an activity area
- A school playground after hours
4: Dads Can Bring Home Take-Out or Make Sandwiches
Honestly, whether you order take-out or make sandwiches, Mama isn’t going to care.
She’ll be so grateful that you took on that chore and she’ll eat whatever you prepare with ravenous relish.
I know many guys really enjoy cooking which is great. My husband is not one of them. He has a couple specialties: Soup and Sandwiches.
And that’s perfect.
I love when he makes whatever he makes. Making a simple little meal for the family (or ordering take-out and serving it up) is a great way to really help out during pregnancy.
5: Dads Can Bathe the Kiddos
If your children are older this is easy, but if your kids are still quite young and require supervision, this one can be very taxing on pregnant mama.
Leaning over the tub to help wash and rinse is another “huffing-and-puffing-required” task, especially during the third trimester.
It’s uncomfortable, no matter how she maneuvers and it can be a slip hazard too.
If your children don’t splash and get water on the floor, I want to meet those angels.
Otherwise, Mama is watching the kids, washing and rinsing, then helping them properly dry off, all while leaning over that hard tub’s edge and trying not to slip on puddles.
You have no idea how much help giving the kids a bath is to her. Or maybe you do. If you do, bless you, Daddy. You’re seriously a hero.
6: Dads Can Take On A Couple Extra Chores
I’ve already given you some ideas about a couple chores you can take on.
I know you’re exhausted from working, too, and this is where becoming a team is crucial.
The chores that require more elbow grease are the ones that quickly tax Mama’s strength and energy during pregnancy.
This is where your help would be greatly appreciated.
Here are some ideas:
- Taking out the Trash
Here are some smaller chores that have to be done every day:
- Wiping down the toilet/sink/shower
- Wiping down highchairs
- Picking up stray toys/items
- Making beds
No, this is not a complete list but it’s a good start.
Choosing just a couple of these chores to help out would make a massive difference!
7: Dads Can Put Gas In the Car
There isn’t much that’s more exhausting than collapsing into the car after buckling car seats and maneuvering diaper bags and–oh yeah–that huge baby bump, and turning on the car… only to find it needs gas.
On top of that, the smell of fuel is also a very common sicky trigger for a lot of pregnant women.
Taking the time to go fuel up the car is an unbelievable help!
8: Dads Can Overlook the Messes
There are times when you don’t have the time to do much around the house and Mama simply doesn’t have the energy.
Some extra clutter during pregnancy is hands-down a given. It just happens. Trust me, your wife notices, too.
She most likely is being way too hard on herself about not being able to keep the house like she usually does while feeling helpless about not having the strength to do much about it.
It’s at these times when a little extra grace is so appreciated.
Refraining from making any comments or criticizing is a kindness your wife will deeply appreciate.
She’s already being hard on herself (trust me on that one), and having your understanding makes all the difference.
9: Dads Can Give A Foot or Back Rub or Draw A Bath
There are going to be some tough days.
This is the name of the game and if you’ve been on the pregnancy journey before, you totally understand where I’m coming from.
Offering to give a foot or back massage is a wonderful way to show your support during pregnancy.
Another great way to help is to offer to start a bath. Sprinkling some Epsom salt and lighting a favorite candle are wonderful, too!
10: Dads Can Encourage, Encourage, ENCOURAGE
The easiest way to offer your support is to encourage your wife.
Seriously, just a few kind words of, “You’re doing great,” or “you look beautiful,” make such a difference!
Here are a few other things your pregnant wife would love to hear from you:
- “You’re doing a wonderful job.”
- “I know it’s not easy, and you’re killing it!”
- “Your pregnant look is beautiful!”
- “What can I do to help?”
- “What would you like me to do right now?”
- “I may not understand, but I’m here for you.”
Some Pro Tips for Dads and Pregnancy
So I asked my husband about his thoughts on this subject and his very first response to my question: “What advice would you give dads about their pregnant wives?” was this:
In his words:
“Words you might think are harmless or casual may not be to your pregnant wife. She’s more sensitive during this time, so think twice about what you say and do. Just make extra effort to be sensitive to her feelings.”
I thought that was awfully sweet and rather brilliant, so I wanted to share them with you.
Don’t Get Overwhelmed
Things can get stressful for dads and pregnancy, too. Remember, that’s okay. This doesn’t mean you need to do everything on this list every day.
View this list as 10 ideas to choose from to help your wife when you can see she needs it.
If you’re not sure which one to choose or where to start, just ask her. She may have some other ideas of things you can do that aren’t on this list.
Hang in there, Dad! This is a beautiful season, but it’s also challenging at times–for both of you. Use this opportunity to grow as a team and become stronger.
Buy your wife this pregnancy book! There’s even a chapter in there for you, too!
One More Thing–Thank You
Hey Dad, you can help pack the hospital bags, too! Here are some tips and ideas!
Thank you, Dads, for taking the time to find ways to be helpful.
It means more than you could possibly know. Thank you, Dads, for being sensitive to your wife’s needs and actively working to be apart of the team.
What you’re doing is commendable and so worthy of respect and gratitude.
We mamas understand that dads have a lot of pressures on their plates, too, and that things can get stressful.
Marriage isn’t about giving 50/50. It’s giving 100/100, and sometimes 150/50 or 80/70 or… well, you get it.
So you are appreciated, you are respected, and you are heroes!
All the pregnant mamas who are too tired to find the words.